ASK ANNE: Feeling Self-sufficient

ASK ANNE:

Question:         This may sound like a stupid question, but I have a hard time asking people for help. Is that normal?

                        Signed: "Feeling Self-sufficient"

Answer:           Dear Self-sufficient:

First of all, I never find any question to be “stupid.” However, your quandary is shared by many. Your feelings may stem from childhood, when asking for help was seen as a sign of weakness. Or, you don’t like to inconvenience others. When so many in our nation were isolated for an extended period, it seemed we were in a “survival of the fittest” era. Now, could your feelings be prideful at feeling weak? If you can do it yourself … do. But if you’re putting yourself at risk, swallow your pride; ask for help. Building a good support system around you would also be helpful.

Proverbs 16:18 tells us: "Pride goes before disaster, and a haughty spirit before a fall."

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